3 secrets for someone just getting into Lolita

I will start this weeks post for the Lolita Blog Carnival with saying my 3 tips will be for the new lifestyle Lolita's.
1. While owning a closet full of brand clothing would be nice I don't think most of us could afford one. I will tell you once you have picked what looks good on you and what you like try to find find nice Lolita style clothing outside of brand to fill in the gaps in your wardrobe. What do I mean by this? I mean get out and start looking  everywhere from thrift stores to department stores for the stuff to fill in the gaps. I have found lots of lovely vintage stuff for my wardrobe at thrift stores and have even found lovely socks at Dollar Tree.I know some may not like the idea of wearing non brand,but incorporating nice non brand stuff will not only help make it so you don't wear the same clothes every day it will also save you money and make your wardrobe unique to you.
2. Be careful what you buy, if you don't know what quality nice clothes look like  ask for help. I know it maybe hard to ask someone for help,but it's better to ask for help then get wrong and get laughed at later. I know you might want to buy some cheap costume you saw online or in a Halloween, but don't cheap clothes never look good. I don't mean cheap price wise I mean quality wise.I am not saying never go to a Halloween store, or someplace like it. I think you can find nice things anywhere,but I think most of the nice things you would find in a Halloween store would be more like socks  or maybe tights.
3.Don't worry to much about getting it wrong in the start. We all were new once and probably got it wrong a few times. Don't get too mad when someone says you got it all wrong if you get wrong ask what you did wrong and how to fix it.

I know this post maybe a little sloppy ,but I am writing it on the way out the door for a weekend trip. I just had to get in on this weeks post even if it's a little sloppy because I thought it was such a good theme.

Here is the list of other girls who go in on this weeks Lolita Blog Carnival

Suns In Our Hands

The Cute Lifestyle

Her Lumpiness

Lolita Glamour

R Gorey

Lace a la mode

Oh Velveteena

Imaprincess

Hello Batty

Pretty Little Habits

The Bloody Tea Party

3 trends I could never get into

I just had to get into this weeks Lolita blog carnival. I really was not going to , but then I thought I know # things I can't get into. I will keep this weeks blog short and to the point. I love almost all trends even those I don't wear. The 3 trends I can not get get into are simply ones that don't fit me and do happen to look good or work for other people.
1. wigs -  I like wigs ,but they don't fit into my daily Lolita lifestyle. I like to be able to do my hair fast  and go. I know most people think  wigs are easy ,but the styling and every thing is too much work for daily wear. I think that wigs are sometimes too flashy or over the top sometimes for daily wear.
2. bangs - I know for years that bangs were a must have Lolita thing ,but I don't look good in them. I know I could just buy fake bangs to wear with Lolita ,but seeing as don't look good with bags and this is a daily thing not happening no matter how not Lolita some would say I look.

3. real fur- I know fur has become a popular fall fashion trend in Lolita,but as a vegan(a less then perfect one)  I can't go for it. I will say the fur stuff looks cute and  I think  if you wanna wear it go for it ,but again  I can't go for it.

I know this is only 3 trends but I have 2 more that are not me that I will list.

4. contacts- I know they come in tons of cute colors and styles. I know they make lots of Lolita's look very cute,but they are just too much work for a girl who likes to likes to be able to put a outfit together really fast and just go. I like having my closet and my outfits organized so I can get dressed really fast and just go. Contacts to me are just a few extra moments I could be spending on my hair or makeup as I run out the door.Contacts can also be a little too over the top sometimes for a simple everyday outfit.

5.ball jointed doll tights- I just don't get this trend. I guess it could make some girls look cute,but to me it is creepy. I don't think they look doll like. I think they look like fake legs or some exposed replacement knees. I say I think fake legs and knees are fine for those who really need them, but I will say  again to me the tights are just creepy looking.

I know some of you may find my list silly and wonder  how these things could take to much time or not fit into my daily life, but it is just me and I am sure most of my list works very well for girls other then me. Here is the list of the other girls in this weeks Lolita blog carnival.

 





Pretty Little Habits

STELLA'S ICE AGE

Lolita Glamour

Lemon Tree11

Under the Parasol

Her Lumpiness

Dollhouse Diaries

Lace a la mode

Alice in Lolitaland

Jewellery box of the starrry-eyed lolita

Papillon de nuit

The Bloody Tea Party